Thursday 13 November 2014

33 signs of woman cheating

As previously mentioned in my previous post of 18 WOMEN MOST LIKELY TO CHEAT


here is now another, taken from another source about the 33 signs for man to watch out for if she is cheating on you in random order  

#1 Secretive About Her Phone
She won’t let you anywhere near her phone and has it on lock down whenever she’s not with it.

#2 She Doesn’t Communicate
If you ask her to talk, and she is disinterested, it's like hitting a brick wall. This is the time when to give her the ultimatum to see a counselor together.

#3 What's Your Schedule?..
When out of the ordinary, she is really wanting to finding out your EXACT schedule.

#4 She Nags You A LOT!
She is constantly picking on you for EVERY little thing you do. Ugh!

#5 She's Pre-Occupied
She unusually seems to be daydreaming and is elsewhere in her own mind whenever friends are around.
If you look in your iPhone's calendar, are the upcoming months looking unusually devoid of commitments? None of her 200 cousins has a wedding planned, you've yet to confirm any plans for your accrued vacation days, and hell, you haven't even heard about one of those double dates with her best friend she usually forces you to pencil in each month.

It's possible she's overwhelmed at work or otherwise preoccupied; it's also possible she's plotting an escape and is hesitant to extend any invitations knowing she'll eventually have to rescind them. Or, even worse, she's too invested in someone new to realize she's been neglecting your shared social schedule

#6 She Has A New Friend
She tells you she's been spending a lot of time with a new friend, but the look in her eyes and your intuition says otherwise.

Your girlfriend might be cheating if she was, at one time, constantly talking about her new male colleague, pal or friend and suddenly stopped. This guy, who at first seemed to seemed to be the center of the universe, suddenly disappeared from the radar. 

Actually, he only disappeared from your radar, as he has become the number one bogey on hers. If you see your girlfriend showing any form of affection toward another man, alarm bells should start ringing. 

The only instances that you shouldn't suspect her of cheating are if this man is a relative or an old friend. Could this reverence for the new star employee be the reason she no longer invites you to the office parties?

#7 She's NOT Affectionate
No longer does she accept your romantic advances.

#8 Goes Out Dressed-Up
If she is dressed extraordinarily well just to go out for coffee, and she goes out A LOT. . . You have to wonder who is she getting dressed for?

#9 While In Bed
She sleeps a far distance from you, in fact there's enough space in your bed for another person. It makes sense because there is probably another person in your relationship.

#10 You Spy On Her
You might be trolling on her social media or even spying on her phone as a last resort. If you get to this stage, there is likely a good reason why..

#11 Scent of another man
Scent is a very important sign of cheating girlfriend, but if she suddenly starts wearing a new fragrance, the alarm bells need not sound off. She might be simply trying to spice things up in your relationship. Going off the deep end too soon could damage your love life — permanently. However, if you smell another man's cologne on her clothes, hands or neck, then she may be planting her lips where she shouldn't. Watch out



#12 She doesn't criticize you anymore
There was a time when she cared about what you did or said, in fact, she used to hound you about those type of things. Now, it seems that she couldn't care less if you were dead or alive and concern about your habits, good and bad, have retreated to the recesses of her mind. She might have simply given up on trying to convert you or she finally accepted your faults, but she could have just as easily met someone else who does not have your faults and bad qualities.



#13 You caught her in a lie
Catching her in a flat-out lie is a key sign that she is cheating on you or doing something wicked. When you discover that the person you're supposed to trust has been lying to you, your feelings will surely run the gamut — from anger to rage, and from frustration to sadness. But keep this in mind: if men are stuck with the "once a liar, always a liar" lyric, the same stigma can be applied to women.

#14 Your sex life is nonexistent

In the past, the two of you went at it like wild animals in heat, but now she gives you the cold shoulder when you try to initiate sexual relations and intimacy is nonexistent. Either she has lost interest in you, which is not good, or she is getting her kicks elsewhere, which is really not good. It's time for a talk if the two of you are still intimate but find that she lacks any desire for you.

#15 She has a new wardrobe

She has an entirely new wardrobe, her lingerie has taken a cue from Victoria's Secret and her hair looks great. She could be cheating on you, but here is a warning to the paranoid: if she started a new job, for example, she is probably not cheating. If she is doing this all for you, wake up and please her as she is not cheating on you... at least not yet.
More signs to that your girlfriend might be cheating on you...

#16 She's getting in shape

She hits the gym, eats healthier and she has her eyes set on becoming fit in a short time span. Again, she might be looking to improve her health and lifestyle or she might be doing the extra laps for you. But if she gets home from the gym, showers and runs out (without telling you where she's off to), then something is up.

#17 She works longer hours

A surprising number of women have admitted that if they were to cheat, it would likely be with a colleague. So unless she was just promoted, has a project to close or she's in the midst of a busy season, her work hours should remain more or less stable. If she suddenly starts working 60 hours a week instead of 40, she might just be "logging" in those 20 extra hours on someone else's pay sheet. You should take note, as it might be time for you to punch out.
#18 You're cut off from her family
Her family is now exactly that: her family. One reason for the extra barrier might be to facilitate the eventual separation caused by her cheating or she needs her family to cover up for her. Perhaps the "in-laws" are in the dark as much as you, and would not condone her actions. Whatever her motives, you have discovered that you actually miss the family gatherings that you once dreaded.

#19 She has become defensive and paranoid

She thinks that you are out to get her when you are genuinely clueless about her cheating ways. She stutters and worries excessively when you ask her innocent questions. She answers some phone calls and reacts awkwardly, while she completely avoids other calls. Her sudden fear and paranoia have you worried about her health, until you realize that her health regimen has been getting an extra dose of protein.

#20 She’s giving you space — a little too much space

Just because many girlfriends become space invaders, it doesn’t mean every woman necessarily expects her man to be glued to her hip 24/7. However, if your woman is suddenly opening the floodgates to your free time and not flinching at how you two never seem to spend enough time together, this could be a red flag.
It’s one thing for her to be cool with you having personal time to do your own thing (hey, it’s healthy for your relationship), but it’s quite a different ball game if she’s nearly pushing you out the door or suggesting that you guys do your separate things too often. It could be that her hobby has become some other man.


#21 She brings up reasons to fight out of nowhere

You forgot to buy a certain brand of toilet paper or you’re five minutes late in calling her and she goes nuts on you. If, lately, it seems that all she ever wants to do is pick a fight with you, this could be a symptom of an underlying problem, such as dissatisfaction in the relationship.

#22 She’s more mysterious

There’s no doubt that mystery is a good thing — but in small doses. It’s definitely not an intriguing feeling when your girlfriend is keeping too many things to herself, giving you one-word answers about her day, or making you feel that she hardly ever wants to talk with you anymore.
If she’s usually the one who’s keen to chat, but lately all she ever does is murmur through conversation without giving away too much of her day, this can be a sign something’s up. Another sign is if she doesn’t answer her phone at certain times and you see a pattern forming. An example is if she goes AWOL after work in the evenings or on a weekend day, and when she gets back to you she gives you an unclear reason for her disappearance, such as: “I just had to sort something out” or “something came up.”


#23 She's Turning 25 or 30 or 35 or . . 

Decade and half-decade birthdays trigger navel-gazing-figuratively, and perhaps literally. A woman asks herself, "What have I been doing for the past 5 years?"

"She'll think deeply about her love life and its direction, and if it's not going the way she planned, she might jump at the chance to correct it with an affair," says Don-David Lusterman, Ph.D., a psychologist and the author of Infidelity: A Survival Guide.

The incidence of birthday cheating triples in women who report being in unhappy relationships, according to a survey by infidelity.com.

The plan: Be there.
There are 2 nights when every straight woman wants a man in her bed: New Year's Eve and her birthday. Leave her solo and you're giving her permission—and reason—to cheat. And remember, birthday sex is about the birthday girl. Presents are good, too. Especially jewelry.

#24 She's Moving in with You
Yes, it was probably her idea. But now that you're together 24-7 and sharing every detail of your lives, there's not as great a need to keep the conversation flowing every minute.

"She could subconsciously interpret this as meaning that you think she's boring," says Stuart Fischoff, Ph.D., a professor of psychology at California State University at Los Angeles. "If there's someone else around who finds her attractive and intriguing-and shows it-she might go for him instead." (A menshealth.com survey found that 41 percent of women who've cheated did it with a coworker.)

And again, with the whole goal thing-now that you've moved in together, she'll be thinking about the next step, such as engagement or marriage.

"Face it, most women want marriage, and they want to have children," says Susan Heitler, Ph.D., author of The Power of Two. "If you're withholding either or both, you're inviting the risk of her turning to someone else who can make that commitment and give her children."

The plan: Make it clear that you're thinking of living together as a starting point.
Talk about the future. Talk about her in your future.


#25 She Thinks You've Cheated

Revenge affairs are common. Women have them in an attempt to restore self-esteem and feel desirable again.

"It comes down to human nature," Heitler says. "She'll want to get even." She won't necessarily go out looking to hook up, but when she's tempted, the fact that you've done it may weaken her self-control.

The plan: If you are cheating or have cheated before, confess and apologize.
A survey conducted by Peggy Vaughan, author of The Monogamy Myth, showed that 86 percent of couples who discussed one partner's affair were still married, compared with 59 percent of couples who barely talked about it.

If you're not cheating, you have one paranoid woman on your hands. She probably has low self-confidence. Your job: Compliment her, sincerely, specifically, and often.

"You can make her feel better about herself so she won't become vulnerable to these unfounded suspicions," Fischoff says.


#26 She's Not Getting Enough Sex

Oxytocin, a hormone that plays a central role in our urge to bond, spikes to levels three to five times higher than usual just before orgasm. The hormone is more intense in females than in males, so women develop a stronger sense of bonding through sex. 

"If the two of you are not having as much sex as you used to, she might interpret this as a sign that you don't find her attractive and that you don't love her," Fischoff says. "She may seek someone outside the relationship to validate that she's still sexually attractive."

A so-so sex life could also mean you have unresolved problems between you. Research conducted by Shirley Glass, Ph.D., author of Not Just Friends, found that 79 percent of cheating women cited dissatisfaction in the marriage as the cause.

The plan: Have more sex.
If she's the one who doesn't want sex, investigate why. Fix it. Get naked.


#27 She's Ready to Bolt

One more reason a woman might cheat: She wants to dump you. Infidelity can break up couples, so she might cheat on purpose as an easy out.

David Buss, a Ph.D., a professor of psychology at the University of Texas at Austin and the author of The Evolution of Desire, asked 100 men and women which tactic they would use to get out of a bad relationship. One of the most common answers: Start an affair.

The plan: She sucks—let her go.

You're free!


#28 She flirts with other people in front of you

 This points to larger issues of being attention-starved, having an insatiable ego, and otherwise being insecure. But more notably, if she's comfortable batting her eyes at other people in front of you, what is she doing when you're not there?

#29 She makes a point to say she’s unhappy

It's easy to misinterpret any of the aforementioned signals as infidelity when in actuality, there is a perfectly reasonable explanation. But, if you start noticing that the signs are slowly piling up, and she's recently admitted she's no longer happy in the relationship, you might be on the verge of a full-fledged confession.
Guilt is a tricky emotion, and she might feel that by fessing up to her flailing satisfaction in the relationship, she is offering you (and herself) an explanation for her selfish actions. Or, she could be gearing up to act on a long-held impulse, and making her excuses in advances so she can later utter, "I told you so," with aplomb.

#30 Her friends tell you she’s cheating on you

If one or more of her good friends tells you that your girlfriend is cheating on you with another man, odds are, she’s cheating on you with another man! Don’t ignore this intel. Casually bring it up to her in conversation, and if she confirms that it’s true, you’ve got her right where you want her!

#31 Sexier Underwear

When a woman is involved with someone new, she often will go out and purchase sexier bras and panties – because she feels sexier. There is a pleasure women get in being appreciated as a sexual being and will behave a little more sexier… maybe she’s leaving an extra button undone on her blouse or wearing her hair down instead of neatly tied up. Maybe she has changed her perfume (and that could go either way, stronger to cover the scent of his aftershave or lighter because he’s not fond of heavy fragrances). She may also change the way she wears make-up for similar reasons.

#32 Carefully watch her eyes!
When you are in public, dining, at a bar any social function. Do you see her eyes darting about more than usual… is she scanning the room? If her attention to you seems less intense, it probably is. Even if her new partner is aware of you, she will always be “casing” the situation, always trying to be prepared for the unexpected encounter… Another sign to look for: You are sitting across the table from her and the topic of your feelings for one another comes up. Is she looking you straight in the eyes hanging on your every word – or is she looking down or past you or maybe her gaze is glossy and unfocused. Her sincerity towards you is in her eyes, especially when she utters the phrase “I love you.” If she is not looking you straight in the eye when she says that, there could be a problem.
These signs are a clear indication that your woman is cheating on you, or intends to do so. If there is no cheating, the same signs may be a suggestion that the relationship is not where it should be, but don’t get paranoid unless there is a combination of the above signs that make you feel like something is wrong.

#33 She doesn’t wear underwear when she goes out 

 If you follow the news like I do, you’ll know that loose women are known to carry on all about town without wearing underwear, their snizz on full display. Don’t believe me? Google Lindsay Lohan naked snizz shots and prepare to eat your words. If your girlfriend joins the Lohans, Britneys, and Paris’ of the world and hits the town with her snizz flapping in the wind, she’s probably looking to get boned.

she's the cheating kind

If you notice any one of the aforementioned signs in your girlfriend or wife, don't fly off the handle just yet. Remember, it's important to keep sudden behavioral changes in mind as you examine and contrast her regular actions against her new attitude. When you suspect your girl of cheating it is best to follow your instincts first and to keep an eye out for any number of signs. Naturally, our first instinct when we discover a cheating girlfriend is to end the relationship. However, this is up to you and you need to consider what you might have done, if anything, to provoke the cheating and how much time you have invested in the relationship.

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Monday 10 November 2014

German Catholic Angel as Singaporean Taoist Deity Goddess in Palua Ubin Island of Singapore

A German Roman Catholic Angel Honoured as Singaporean Taoist Deity in Pulau Ubin Island of Singapore

Haunted Singapore and Pulau Ubin

Singapore and the islands surroundings it has a reputation for being haunted since pre colonial period till even today. Pulau Ubin is just one of the islands surroundings Singapore.

It is a very small island that is popular today for hikers, campers, devotees as well as paranormal seekers. It used to be a village but today it is a village without villagers.

German Girl Shine ( 德国拿督姑娘庙)

In a deserted part of Pulau Ubin Island lies a mysterious Taoist Shine. It is known by a few names such as : Lady Datok Shrine , German Girl Shine, Berlin Heiligtum , 柏林苑,俗称拿督姑娘庙. But most commonly known as German Girl Shine ( 德国拿督姑娘庙).


Location:

Pulau Ubin, Offshore island off Singapore. Take a bum boat from Changi Ferry Terminal at Changi Village.

Entrance:













From the disembarkation point at Ubin ferry terminal, it is a long walk to the site approximately 1 hour. You could rent a bicycle or a van to take you to the location.

Go by Jalan Jelutung and Jalan Edaud Senin and will take you past a chalet resort follow the signs to the Ketam Mountain Bike Park. This park has gravel and dirt trails labelled by difficulty similar to ski parks, but you won't have to ride on any real trails to find the shrine.

On your way there, you'll get to a fork in the road. At the fork you'll see this sign on the left, in the shrubs Keep heading in the direction of the park; by now you should be on a gravel trail. You'll eventually see the back side of a yellow structure on the left. Turn left towards it and you could see a small red hut. The door is open always but

Do Not Touch anything inside! You won't get lost because there are road markers and at a junction there is a small yellow sign post showing the direction to the site.

Directions on how to get there

From the jetty, follow the blue trail it should give you a good guide on how to walk or cycle there.

For those not good with maps, the starting point is from the jetty archway, then turn left. You should be walking through the main town. Go pass it. You should see a quarry (Pekan Quarry) on your right. Your first decision point on where to turn should be also a signboard with a map as well as a distance indicator signage.

You should turn left to Jalan Jelutong. Keep following this road for 3 km and you will be on right path to the shrine. Some landmarks, you will be passing through 2 bridges (Sungai jelutong and Sungai puaka) that overlooks beautiful mangrove swamps before seeing the only signboard that provides the direction to the German Girl Shrine.

Walk for another 600-700 meters and keep a look out for a yellow building on your left and that should be the shrine.It all fails, hire the van taxi. The locals know this place very well.

Who is this Deity Goddess ?



This Taoist Shine itself honors a 18 year old German girl who died there back during the 1910s. The identity of this girl is unknown. Nobody knows her real name. The only thing known was that she was a Roman catholic. It was believed that she was born in year 1896 & died in year 1914.

This Shine itself is highly famous and popular particularly to gamblers both in Singapore and Malaysia. Devotees reach as far as Thailand , Myanmar and even Europe. It is said that prayers and wishes and often answered and delivered. Her faithful devotees believed that she had became an Angel Goddess/Deity.

Devotees pray to her for all sort of things. They asked for blessings, peace, good luck, health & harmony. But the majorities pray to her for winning lotteries and wealth. She is among one of highly must pray to deities that is very well known and famous to most of the hard core gamblers.
Many people also go to her for spiritual interventions as well too !


Her Origins


Nobody Knows her real name. Back then during the colonial period of a Singapore, 2 German families, Daniel Brandt and Hermann Muhlinga used to owned a coffee plantation at the northeastern part of Pulau Ubin.

However during WW1 ( 1914-1918) when German attack Europe, & UK declare war on Germany on 4th August 1914, the British decided to size all assets , properties and belongings of Germans inside their colony and Singapore was no exception.

Her biological parents were said to have been captured & send to detention barracks in mainland Singapore, however their frighten daughter managed to escaped into the woods uncaptured.
No one really knew what happened, but it was highly believed that she had slip and felled off from the cliff and died when her head smashed against a piece of rock.

The next day some local Malays (Boyanese) plantation workers who for her father spotted her body & there was ants all over her. They covered her corpse with sand and offered prayers to her. They would throw flowers and incense each time they pass by her death spot.

Eventually, a group of Chinese factory workers of the island carted her remains to the crest of the quarry's hill and gave her a proper burial. It was believed that maybe what they did was as a gesture of thanks to the kindness they had received from her parents.

It was uncertain if it was because of ghost sightings that eventually her remains was cremated into a urn and & moved into a Chinese Taoist Shine erected for her whereby she was being honoured as the local deity and since then the village received her blessings .

After the war, her family came back in search of her tombstone but as they could not locate their precious daughter remains, they bitterly left Singapore and never returned. Till date, her family members cannot be traced.


Her Shine


Perhaps after the shine was erected to ho nor her whereby she was worshipped and given a status, This 18 year German Ghost gained her divinity as a result ans became into a deity goddess or Angel and was able received into realm of Lord Jesus with this Taoist Shine as her crossover.

Inside her Shine, both Catholic Biblical relics as well as Chinese Taoist incenses , offerings etc...be found. This Roman Catholic Angel is being honoured by the means of Chinese Taoism.
Her remains were kept inside this Chinese Taoist Shine with an Iron or Sliver crucifix cross and some coins.

In year 1974 a granite company took over the hill for development and hence this shine was shifted downhill to it's present day current location known colloquially as the foot of 'Coffee Hill'. It is painted in yellow (holy colour of Malay) but has features that remind us of Chinese temple, such as a pair of lanterns, bronze censers for Jade Emperor and main deity, moon blocks, joss stick, joss paper burner, oil lamp, donation box, altars, medium's table and chair.

The Granite Company Aik Hwa gave the Shine a Jiangsu Urn which was a very expensive urn to store the remains of this girl. However, this urn was later believed to have been stolen with her remains and her Iron or sliver crucifix ( believed to be stolen for black magic or sorcery purpose) and the urn today in this shine is just a replacement urn & it is empty inside.

This Shine as of this year 2014 is already 118 years old. About 7 or 8 years ago a barbie doll was placed inside the shine for the spirit to reside inside. Previously in the past devotee just prayed to the urn.

On the main altar is a barbie doll to represent the German Girl and a host of things one would find on a girl's dressing table. This doll is being adorned in bracelets, a garland and a necklace. She is being surrounded by lipsticks, bottles of nail polish, perfume, powder, hair spray, brush, face cream, flowers, fruits, and other cosmetics which people have offered. Below the main altar is a stone that came from the spot where her corpse was found, which has been kept to remember her.




The Paranormal of the Shine
There are a couple of paranormal things about her shine and they are

  1. about 7 or 8 years ago (probably in year 2006) a Singaporean who migrated to Australia who was probably previously from this island of Pulau ubin island resident, dreamt of her 3 nights in a row and she instructed him the exact shop and doll she wanted him to send to her and it turn up to be true when he found the exact shop and doll as per her instructions. Hence , from Australia this man send over the doll to this shine
  2. There was no bloodstain on the stone of her shine which was believed she hit on before dying and found in front of the stone.
  3. Anyone who touched the urn behind the doll is said to be able to speak German

  4. Said that her spirits loiters around her Shine even till today, & there are Pocong or was it night angel spotted ?
Similar versions of likewise deities just like her


Some likewise local deities are like:
  • Datuk Gong or Na Tu Kong (拿督公) Datuk Keramat / Keramat Datuk of Malaysia

  • Mae Nak shrine in the Prakanong district of Bangkok Thailand

  • Tua Pek Gong (大伯公)

they are invisible but their powers is omnipresent



Videos
https://www.viddsee.com/video/german-girl-shrine/z1ho4 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z-2E1lEnlj8
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Nw_dQmej8ts https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SQmM3ajebz4
Source of Origins